Why the modern man or woman stretches their ears
I have always been intrigued by the social behaviors of humans. I love people watching. Sometimes it gets me wondering why people choose to express themselves in certain ways. The question today is, "Why do people stretch their ears?" The following is meant to refer to society as a whole. (I know there are many varied reasons why an individual may want to stretch their ears.)
History has shown us that ear stretching was initially used to show that an individual belonged to a group or a tribe. It was accepted by the group and they were marked as being "one of us". When someone did not have stretched ears they were considered to be an outsider or someone who did not belong to the tribe.
The Modern Day Ear Stretcher
Fast forward to the modern day practice of ear stretching and you will see quite the opposite. People seem to be trying to break out of the mold and express their individuality. Maybe they want to steer away from their current "Tribe" and join a new "Tribe" that better understands their beliefs and ideas. It seems that the individual is expressing who they are or want to become. The person who was once accepted as part of the tribe is now shown to be the "weird one" or "outcast."
20 - 30 years ago ear stretching your ears seemed to be very different from what it is today. Body modifications like stretched ears were rarely seen (except in traditional tribes). In the Western culture they were mostly seen in groups like punks or goths. Nowadays it continues to be on the rise. Ear stretching is growing in popularity with both men and women and it does not seem to be confined to any one type of group. It is truly an artistic accessory to add to the look or style of each individual.
The point of no return
There is a point in stretching your ears that is known as the "point of no return." In a lot of cases, when the ear is stretched above 10mm (00 gauge for ears), it is not able to properly heal and will never go back to what it was before. Below this "point of no return" seems to be what is more accepted these days. This was not the case in the 80's or 90's.
It seems that the higher the ear is stretched past the 10mm mark (00 gauge for ears), the more one might receive judgmental looks or opinionated remarks. Comments like "That is disgusting.", "Can I stick my finger through your hole?", or "Didn't that hurt?" If you have stretched ears, these comments and questions are all too familiar. It's just the way our society is. Perhaps in another 10-20 years it will be a nonissue.
The New Tribe
No matter for what reasons people decide to stretch their ears, one thing is for sure. The art's popularity is growing. The New Modern Era Ear Stretching "Tribe" is growing. The tribe is expanding around the world and immensely diverse individuals are finding common ground through the art of ear stretching.
What's Your Story?
I am taking a survey to hear your story. Please comment below and tell me your story of why you stretch your ears.
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I started stretching my ears when i was 13. I always felt like i didn’t fit in, and somehow adding body modifications was calming and it made me feel better about my image. 7 years later I love my stretched ears and all the other piercings and tattoos i have gotten since. It just feels right, it feels good.
I learned about lobe stretching through an assignment in history, fell in love with the idea of belonging to a tribe & thought that one day I would be adopted by a tribe. I started stretching my lobes at the age of 13, now almost 30 I’m still stretching. Current size, 32mm.
P.S. Was never adopted by a tribe.
I use to have unhealthy coping mechanism that included self harm. I found stretching my ears, and getting other piercings allowed for me a much healthier way to cope. Instead of being left with scars, I now have beautiful jewelry and tattoos instead!
I started stretching my ears when I was 15. I’m about to be 30. I don’t even think other kids were stretching their ears by then. I started stretching my ears because I didn’t like the way my ear lobes looks and seriously wanted to have plastic surgery to fix them. When ever I came across people stretching their ears I was like wow! Something I can do now… that won’t cost thousands up front and I won’t have to wait til I’m 18. Also I always hated wearing regular earrings.
I grew up around body modifications within my family in the form of tattoos and some piercings. As I got older I started hanging out at the local tattoo shop and I fell in love with all modifications. When I was 13 I started stretching my ears out because I loved the look and it was taboo where I’m from. As an adult I’m still stretching my ears, I recently moved from the states to Mexico so I’m the outsider again but I’m OK with it because I find my ears beautiful and they show my individuality.. People stare at me everywhere but I’m OK with it and am willing to explain why I did this, I’m at 9/16 and am looking forward to moving up to my next size ?